Sunday

Que the Twilight Zone music....

Pixie
So last night, just about 24 hrs ago, I get a call from my Mom that I wasn't expecting.
She called to tell me that she got a call that my paternal Grandmother just died.
Normally this news would cause tears, sadness, maybe even regret for not being able to say Goodbye. But here's the thing. It didn't. And the reason is what makes this whole situation extremely bizarre,

My father and I were under the impression that my Grandmother (his Mom) passed away more than 6 yrs ago. Yes, that's what you just read, we thought she was already dead.

So to get a call, from her housekeeper saying that she just passed (late Friday afternoon, Jan. 23, 2015) was quite shocking. My mom spoke with the housekeeper first and then gave me her number. I called her and spoke with her about my Grandmothers passing. I explained to her how confusing this whole thing was for me. I explained to her that all of us were under the impression that my Grandmother had passed away back in 2008 or maybe even 2007.

Here's the thing. My paternal grandmother and I were not very close. Even though we only lived about 5 mins from one another we never really saw each other. after my Grandfather died back in 1999 she kinda just shut down. I extended myself as much as I could and went to see her often many years ago. But the last few times that I saw her she kept saying really mean things like "Why are you here?" and "Don't bother coming to see me anymore". "You don't need to visit" and "Why are you here? What do you want?".

Even though after the last time I visited her she pretty much told me to go away, I still tried to reach out via the phone. She was just mean to me but since she was my Grandmother, I kept trying.

Then in 2007 maybe 2008 my Dad got a call from her saying she was moving to another country. That we shouldn't bother trying to keep in contact, and that she was leaving all of her savings & house to the church. Not too long after that my Dad received a call that she had passed away.

So as far as any of us were concerned she had passed away over 5+ years ago.
So to get this call last night was completely unexpected and unbelievable.

I still don't even know how to process it.

I mean how do you mourn someone you have already mourned?
How do you cry about the loss of a family member that you said Goodbye to  so many years before?

I can't even begin to wrap my head around what my Dad is going through. I mean this was his MOM! She was HERE 2 days ago. He could have talked to her. He could have told her that he loved her and now she is gone. I can't even wrap my brain around it.

None of this seems real. Its like something you read about in a book.
Or something you see in a movie or crime drama or something.
This doesn't happen in real life.
It really is a Twilight Zone episode!!!

Pixie / Author & Editor

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